September 16, 2013

Thoughts, words, actions, character & you

Watch your thoughts
           For your thoughts become your words
Watch your words
            For your words become your actions
Watch your actions
            For your actions become your habit
Watch your habits
            For your habits become your character
& your character is everything.

September 15, 2013

Why Me Mom? - Death of an Innocent

Why Me Mom? - Death of an Innocent

I went to a party, Mom, I remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom, so I drank soda instead.
I really felt proud inside, Mom, the way you said I would.
I didn't drink and drive, Mom, even though the others said I should.

I know I did the right thing, Mom, I know you are always right.
Now the party is finally ending, Mom, as everyone is driving out of sight.
As I got into my car, Mom, I knew I'd get home in one piece.
Because of the way you raised me, so responsible and sweet.

I started to drive away, Mom, but as I pulled out into the road, 
the other car didn't see me, Mom, and hit me like a load.
As I lay there on the pavement, Mom, I hear the policeman say, 
the other guy is drunk, Mom, and now I'm the one who will pay.

I'm lying here dying, Mom.. I wish you'd get here soon.
How could this happen to me, Mom? My life just burst like a balloon.
There is blood all around me, Mom, and most of it is mine.
I hear the medic say, Mom, I'll die in a short time.

I just wanted to tell you, Mom, I swear I didn't drink.
It was the others, Mom. The others didn't think.
He was probably at the same party as I.
The only difference is, he drank and I will die.

Why do people drink, Mom? It can ruin your whole life.
I'm feeling sharp pains now. Pains just like a knife.
The guy who hit me is walking, Mom, and I don't think it's fair.
I'm lying here dying and all he can do is stare.

Tell my brother not to cry, Mom. Tell Daddy to be brave.
And when I go to heaven, Mom, put "Daddy's Girl" on my grave.
Someone should have told him, Mom, not to drink and drive.
If only they had told him, Mom, I would still be alive.

My breath is getting shorter, Mom. I'm becoming very scared.
Please don't cry for me, Mom. When I needed you, you were always there.
I have one last question, Mom, before I say good bye.
I didn't drink and drive, so why am I the one to die?

Reblogged via Touching Stories

Funny story

Taken from an answer on Quora.

During lunch at work last week, I ate 3 plates of beans (which I know I shouldn't). When I got home, my b.f seemed excited to see me and exclaimed delightedly: "Darling I have a surprise for dinner tonight." He then blindfolded me and led me to my chair at the dinner table. I took a seat and just as he was about to remove my blindfold, the telephone rang. He made me promise not to touch the blindfold until he returned and went to answer the call. The beans I had consumed were still affecting me and the pressure was becoming unbearable, so while my b.g was out of the room I seized the opportunity, shifted my weight to one leg and let one go . It was not only loud, but it smelled like a fertilizer truck running over a skunk in front of a garbage dump! I took my napkin from my lap and fanned the air around me vigorously. Then, shifting to the other leg, I ripped off three more. The stink was worse than cooked cabbage. Keeping my ears carefully tuned to the conversation in the other room, I went on releasing atomic bombs like this for another few minutes. The pleasure was indescribable! Eventually the telephone farewells signaled the end of my freedom, so I quickly fanned the air a few more times with my napkin, placed it on my lap and folded my hands back on it feeling very relieved and pleased with myself. My face must have been the picture of innocence ,when my b.f returned, apologizing for taking so long. He asked me if I had peaked through the blindfold, and I assured him I had not. At this point, he removed the blindfold, and twelve dinner guests seated around the table, with their hands to their noses, chorused: "Happy Birthday"..

September 14, 2013

Luck, Hardwork & Success

Luck gives you an edge, but it is your hard work that makes that luck into success.

More on this, later.

September 13, 2013

Happiness = Reality - Expectations

Happiness = Reality - Expectations

If your expectations are zero, Happiness becomes a reality & your reality becomes your source of happiness.

Related posts : Contentment is the key to happinessHappiness is a Choice, not just a Chance

September 9, 2013

Micchami Dukkadam : a phrase often misused?

मिछ्छामि दुक्कड़म, प्राकृत भाषा का वाक्य है। (original Jain scriptures are written in Prakrit language, not Sanskrit) 
प्राकृत से अंग्रेज़ी में अनुवाद करने पर मूल अर्थ आता है, 'may all the evil that has been done be fruitless.' while, according to the Hindi translation pratikaman book, it is 'आत्मा को पापकर्म से अलग करना'
Micchami Dukkadam does not mean (at least literally), 'I seek your forgiveness & I forgive you.' which is what a lot of people think it means when they say it on Samvatsari or otherwise.
Hence, IMO it makes sense to say Micchami Dukkadam after १८ पाप स्थान, अविनय अशातना etc., even in case of seeking मुक्ति from previous karma bandhan of hurting someone, but not in place of seeking forgiveness & forgiving itself.

Reference : Wikipedia for the literal meaning
What made me think about it?
Messages of 'Micchami Dukkadam' in place of khamatkhamna. 

Edit 1 : I should ask Maharajsa/Dadi the meaning of मिछ्छामि दुक्कड़म  tomorrow & update this post.
Edit 2 : this is still under research, your thoughts & opinions on the matter are welcome. Please contribute the same in the comments below, & I will update the post with the relevant thoughts & ideas.

Unconditional Forgiveness & Gratitude

Unconditional Forgiveness & Gratitude are the essence of Paryushan.

I have been thinking about this since yesterday. Paryushan & Samvatsari, the Kshamaparv are not just about forgiveness to those who seek forgiveness but they are about unconditional forgiveness to each and every organism on the planet, whether they seek it or not & seek forgiveness from each & every organism on the planet.
Such unconditional forgiveness then fills our mind with gratitude towards everyone.

Isn't this also the very essence of humanity?

September 8, 2013

Shree Amar Bharti : September 1997 issue : A review

This is the essence of the September 1997 issue of Shree Amar Bharti. Imo

@Kruti, संतोषामृततृप्तानाम is a conjunction of 3 words, संतोष, अमृत, तृप्ति, a sanskrit word, actually a sentence said in a single word, संतोष रूपी अमृत तृप्त करती है।
संतोष = be happy with what you have
अमृत = nectar
तृप्ति = fulfilment

What it really means is, (IMHO) no matter how much worldly possession (money, land, investments, laptops, phones, gadgets, cars etc.) you have if you will experience fulfilment only when you are happy/satisfied with what you have. If you keep on wanting more & more, no matter how much you have, you will never experience fulfilment.

Future as a function of the past

Himanshu Kateja uploaded a status today, 
"the future is independent of the past, given the present" - Andrey Markov, 1856-1922
Food for thought - aisa sirf theory mein hota hai

This has prompted me to think about it & I have come to the realisation that the past affects are future to a varying degree depending on the time difference between the past & the future.
P. S. : present is a past for the future. So present by itself is already affecting the future as a past.

f(t) = f(t-$t)•e^(-$t) + c(t-$t)f(t-$t)

Where $ = delta (a variable time difference measured backwards from now) 
c(t-$t) is special relation function. For eg. If this the college entrance time, then the c function of t-$t = entrance exam time becomes significantly important for your present.

What I am basically trying to say is, that the dependence of any time on the past reduces with the time difference between the past & the said time, but for special events dependent entirely (or majorly) on a specific point in the past, the relation with the particular time in past may have a peak.
& $t is a variable time difference, so all previous value of function f at past times are considered.
Also the present is being determined by the past, to a certain degree, & the future is being determined by the present which is in turn affected by the past.
(considering a general event, for which c = 0) However due to the repetition of the exponential reduction, the dependence of the future on the past is much lower than either of the following two :
1. Dependence of the present now on the said past.
2. Dependence of the future on the present now.

So, my dear friend, start working in the present instead of futilely musing on the past because the effect, on future, of what you are doing right now is much higher than what you did in the past.

September 6, 2013

If syzygy can be a word, punny should definitely be!

Punny is not a word according to my phone's dictionary.

September 4, 2013

Quotes about life & more, a collection

This is a collection of quotes, not self-made. Sources or original speakers are quoted where known.

1. "It is very simple to be happy, but it is very difficult to be simple."
 Rabindranath Tagore

2. Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he recieved during a heart surgery in 1983.

From the world over, he recieved letters from his fan, one of them conveyed: "Why does God have to select you for such a bad disease?".

To this Arthur Ashe replied: The world over--50,000,000 children start playing tennis, 5,000,000 learn to play tennis, 500,000 learn profesional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, 5000 reach the grand slam, 50 reach the Wimbledon, 4 to semi finals, 2 to finals. When I was the one holding the cup, I never asked god "Why me?".

And today in pain, I should not be asking GOD "why me?".

3. Steve Jobs
"If you want to live your life in a creative way, as an artist, you have to not look back too much. You have to be willing to take whatever you’ve done
and whoever you were and throw them away.
The more the outside world tries to reinforce an image of you, the harder it is to continue to be an artist, which is why a lot of times, artists have to
say, “Bye. I have to go. I’m going crazy and I’m getting out of here.” And they go and hibernate somewhere. Maybe later they re-emerge a little

4. You can do anything, but not everything.
David Allen

5. Dream is not that what you see in sleep..
Dream is the thing which does not let you sleep.
---Dr. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam

  • Dont be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin
  • The truth will set you free, but first it will drive you insane
  • "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony."
  • "If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader." - John Quincy Adams .
  • "Speaking comes by nature, silence by understanding" - German Proverb
  • "The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear." - Rumi
He who asks question remains fool for 5 minutes , who does not ask question remains fool forever.

"Never tell your problems to anyone. Eighty percent of the people don't care, whereas the remaining twenty percent are glad that you have them."

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can't-- either way you're right.” : Henry Ford

I traveled the road less taken & that has made all the difference. Robert Frost

This too shall pass.

You miss 100 percent of a chance you don't take.

Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there.
— Will Rogers
Believe those who are seeking the truth. Doubt those who find it.

"Yesterday is History,Tomorrow is a Mystery,But Today is a Gift that's why it is called PRESENT"

A country is not DEVELOPED when the poor have cars...A country is DEVELOPED when the rich use public transport!

“In the heart's deepest place, where the burden of ego is dropped and the mystery of soul is penetrated, a man finds the consciousness there not different in any way from what all other men may find. The mutuality of the human race is thus revealed as existing only on a plane where its humanness is transcended. This is why all attempts to express it in political and economic terms, no less than the theosophic attempts to form a universal brotherhood, being premature, must be also artificial. This is why they failed.” -- Paul Brunton

It was true that I didn't have much ambition, but there ought to be a  place for people without ambition, I mean a better place than the one  usually reserved. How in the hell could a man enjoy being awakened at  6:30 a.m. by an alarm clock, leap out of bed, dress, force-feed, shit,  piss, brush teeth and hair, and fight traffic to get to a place where  essentially you made lots of money for somebody else and were asked to  be grateful for the opportunity to do so?
Factotum,Charles Bukowski(1975)

It's the possibility that keeps me going, not the guarantee.

"power is when we have every justification to kill, and we don't"Schindler's List

Twice the pride, double the fall.

"Low minds discuss people, Moderate minds discuss events, whereas the High minds discuss ideas."

Giving Money to a cause is easy, giving time is difficult. Mahendra Banthia

जो तेरा है वो जाता नहीं, जो जाता है वो तेरा नहीं।

गुस्सा : अक्ल को खा जाता है

अहंकार : मन को खा जाता है

चिंता : आयु को खा जाती है

लालच : ईमान को खा जाता है

रिश्वत : इंसाफ़ को खा जाती है

गालो मुस्कुरालो, महफिले सजा लो।
क्या पता कल कौ नसा साथी छूट जाए।।
ज़िंदगी की डोर, बड़ी कमज़ोर।
क्या पता कब टूट जाए।।

जीवन का सबसे बड़ा रोग, क्या कहेंगे लोग। - contributed by Bulbul Tunkalia

Life is too short for hatred, but long enough for love & peace. - Self

क्षमा करें और क्षमा माँग लें, जीत है इसमें हार नहीं।
क्षमा वीर का भूषण है, यह कायर का व्यवहार नहीं।।

गुण न हो तो रूप व्यर्थ है
विनम्रता न हो तो विद्या व्यर्थ है
दया न हो तो धन व्यर्थ है
भूख न हो तो भोजन व्यर्थ है
होश न हो तो जोश व्यर्थ है
परोपकार न करने वाले का तो जीवन ही व्यर्थ है

Life is a pendulum between joy & sorrow.

This too shall pass

• The best gift you can give somebody to show you love them, is freedom. 

This explains why my parents put very few restrictions on me. They knew I wouldn't misuse the freedom. Being responsible and respecting the space others give me- definitely changed me(positively)!

• There is (almost) nothing universally right or wrong. 
Rightness is a relative concept. If you think something another person is doing is wrong, it might be perfectly right for them. Before knowing the purpose of why they did it, you shouldn't point at their action.
- Navneet Munot (contributed by Kruti Munot) "almost" edited by me.

There is always someone more intelligent, or prettier, or stronger, if not today, then maybe tomorrow, but there will be. So be humble, always.
At the same time, there is noone as You as you. So be your self, in fact your best self. self realistaion

In a few 100 or a few 1000 years (or anyway, a few billion years) from now, nothing will be as we know it, none will be for all that I know, make the best of life while you have it. Dad, Dada

My true inheritance is the knowledge & my experiences that I can share with you, the good things in life that I am able to teach you. Dada

Trust is the only thing that lasts. Dad, Dada

Your character is everything, & the only thing that will be with you no matter what. Prof. A. K. Mallik, ME 101, 1st. year

If suit be thy honour, it is but temporary.
But if honour be thy suit, it shall last a lifetime. Prof. Amit Ray, Art 102, 1st year

Reduce your expectations to zero & happiness becomes a reality.

Guru Brahma, Guru Vishnu, Guru Devo Maheshwara
Guru sakshat Param Brahma, tasmai Shree guru ve namah।

Luck gives you an edge, but it is your hard work that makes that luck into success.

Watch your thoughts
           For your thoughts become your words
Watch your words
            For your words become your actions
Watch your actions
            For your actions become your habit
Watch your habits
            For your habits become your character
& your character is everything.

The Reason For Praying Is Not To Have All We Want,
But To Thank GOD For All He Has Given Us. (where God is the same as Father, Mother, Grandfather & Grandmother in my case.)

इक दिन बिक जाएगा माटी के मोल।
इस जग में रह जाएँगे प्यारे तेरे बोल।।

Love is freedom

अविनाशी जब विनाशी से मिलता है तो मैं जागता है, मैं का function मन है| Kushal Chand Karnawat, source : Kanhaiya Lal ji Lodha

Don't just be successful, be meaningful. Self

The greatest threat to our planet is the belief that someone else will save it  Kruti Munot

It takes 2 years to learn how to speak, but a lifetime to learn when to. Sambhav Karnawat

Wo sangharsh sangharsh hi kya, jo khudke liye kiya jaye, asli sangharsh to wo hai, jo samaaj ke liye kiya jaye. This quote reminded me of my Iitk Batchmate, Nandan Misra. Quote by Lord Krishna from the animated movie, Arjun the Warrior Prince.

Retry & do what I really want to do. Because I have realised, life does not give up on you as long as you don't give up on yourself. Sambhav Karnawat

“His tales of the Imass - he said the greatest proof of strength a male warrior could display was found in not once touching his mate with anything but tenderness.”

Excerpt From: Erikson, Steven. “Malazan 9 - Dust of Dreams.”
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“All that we are is the result of what we have thought” - Buddha

To give money to something is easy, to give time is much more difficult.

“There is no struggle too vast, no odds too overwhelming, for even should we fail - should we fall - we will know that we have lived.'

Excerpt From: Erikson, Steven. “Malazan 08 - Toll the Hounds.” iBooks. 
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Worrying won't stop the bad stuff from happening, it just stops you from enjoying the good.....GM Prof. Bardia

Santoshi aadmi sada sukhi
Lobhi aadmi dukhi

Paropkar is Punya, Paropeeda is paap

Sacchi taareef Wo nahin hoti jo log aapke mooh pe karte hain, sacchi taareef wo hoti hai jo log aapke peeche se karte hain

Koi pagal machal raha hai, Sansar ke sukh bhog kar
Koi pagal machal raha hai, tyag ka nritya dikha kar
Aham to aham hai, chahe kaisa bhi ho
Jeevan mein vish ghol raha hai
- Shri Mad Ranchal, through Khushboo, credits Niya

Live & let live. Mahaveer

September 1, 2013

Solitude, love.

"I fell in love with solitude. Submerged myself in it like bathwater, soaked in it, let it wash over my skin, crawl into my pores, settle in my lungs. I inhale loneliness like it's the sweetest spring air that has ever kissed my lips. When did one become the most beautiful number?"